About women and men, questions awaiting answers!
About women and men, questions awaiting answers!
Peace be upon you,
I would like to know why no one talks about women’s rights as much discourse about the issues caused by women, as if men were not human beings?
Why is no one talking about the effectiveness of polygamy in a sound manner and that it actually has conditions and controls? other than fairness and financial support, and If this right is misused, corruption may arise and here lies the point; Why is no one talking about the other forms of corruption, such as the destruction of homes or neglecting feelings, under the excuse of God’s saying that men cannot maintain equity in women’s feelings, and that just the validity of polygamy does not mean turning a blind eye to the problems that may arise from marrying a second or fourth wife, even if it’s considered lawful, etc., and that only what they mention is only the problem of “justice,” as if it was the only or worst problem indeed.
Why does no one talk frequently and in detail about how to deal with your wife, and if something comes up, try to work it out with her, instead of the solution always being either marrying another or divorce? and why is the husband not asked to be as patient as a woman does, even though this is her nature?
Why does no one talk about men’s problems, mistakes, behaviors, way of thinking, lifestyles, and their interactions with people and life?
Why does no one give value to mental illness in a religious context and its significant impact on family life, and that marriage is the solution even though marriage is not really the solution? If it were, it would be a secondary thing and hardly a primary thing, (because marriage and the family are based on responsibility, capability, maturity, and other things, and it is not a rehabilitation home for adults, or a place for a testing ground for the abilities of parents over children but it’s a place to build a generation either on a good or bad foundation.
When I say “why doesn’t anyone,” I don’t mean to say that God, the Prophet, the Companions, the Followers, the Salaf, or the scholars of the Ummah say so.
Lyla Hamdan
In Questions & Doubts.06/13/2025
