Correcting Standards (Marriage)

Marriage is tranquility and responsibility—not merely a label attached to your name so that you can be called “married.”

The marriage ordained by Allah is a garment for both spouses and a safe refuge in which they find peace, as Allah says:

﴾And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who give thought.﴿

Al-Baghawi (may Allah have mercy on him) explained:

﴾And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates﴿—meaning from your own kind, from the children of Adam. It is also said that Eve was created from Adam’s rib.

﴾that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy﴿—meaning that He placed between the spouses love and compassion; they love one another and show mercy to one another, and nothing becomes dearer to either of them than the other, even though there is no blood relation between them.

Marriage is not a field for showing dominance, imposing opinions, or exercising control. Rather, it is a shared journey between two souls through the challenges of life—its joys and sorrows—each strengthening the other in worship, supporting one another in obedience, so that from them may come a generation that worships Allah and contributes to the flourishing of the earth.

In recent times—unfortunately—a distorted understanding of marriage has spread. For some, it has become merely the desire to carry the title “married” before people, without awareness of the weight of this solid pledge, its responsibilities, commitments, and the need for true support.

Another troubling reality: when a suitor comes forward, questions pour in:

What is his job?

How much does he earn?

Does he own a home or rent?

But where is the question about his prayer? Where is the question about his attendance in congregation prayer?

Yet worship of Allah is the primary gateway in accepting a suitor, as the Prophet ﷺ said:

“If there comes to you one whose religion and character you are pleased with, then marry him.”

But asking about this has become almost nonexistent. People have become preoccupied with material appearances and worldly life, neglecting the Hereafter and striving for it.

Also common among some parents is the saying: “Let’s marry him off—maybe he will become responsible!” This is a serious mistake. Marriage requires maturity before entering it—a person capable of carrying responsibility and building a stable home. Because of this mindset, we have seen and heard how courtrooms have become crowded with divorce cases that have shattered families. Allah is the One whose help is sought.

In conclusion:

Marriage is a trust and a command from Allah and His Messenger. If you marry, then maintain good companionship. And if you part ways, then part with kindness and dignity—far from the harm that scatters children and the humiliation of court disputes.

Peace be upon you.

— By Dina Ahmad

7 Dhul-Qa‘dah 1447 AH

24 April 2026

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